from the “Modern Breakthrough” ebook

Have you experienced unconditional love? Was it your parent, friend, or partner? Chances are not really. How about yourself? How does it feel to love yourself unconditionally? Do you think that it might be selfish? Do you think that only God can give unconditional love? Is your particular God good with unconditional love or do you need to be a certain way for your God to approve of you?

The secret here is that self-love is accepting you at any point of your journey. Self-love is not about using an updated intelligence to look back at your actions.

Let’s do this visualization.
“Imagine yourself as a six-month-old baby. You cannot walk yet, you are looking around, and everything fascinates you. You are tiny, maybe on the floor, surrounded by toys. Pick this baby up. Hold it and say: “I love you, baby. I love everything about you. I love that you are only learning to eat, I love that you have no idea how to get dressed. I love that you get upset when your tummy bothers you. I love your open smile. I love your tiny hands. I love that you have no clue, and your journey here has just started.”

Do you feel the energy now? Feel that this energy has no expectations. It has no set of rules for the baby. If the baby smiles, you will love the baby, and if the baby cries, you will do your best to resolve the issue. Your love for this baby is unconditional.
This is the energy that you need to be in when you are thinking of you.

You might be asking yourself, “what are the benefits of this kind of love?” At the end of the day, no one loves to be around people who are self-centered. Understand that if you are dealing with any form of health issues, be it, stress, anxiety, or anything that is debilitating you in any way, the result is a lack of self-love. Health experts talk more and more on how our negative thoughts affect our well-being. Our negative inner chatter and negative self-judgement, be it regarding the lack of beauty, intellect, education, or our status in society, all make our health deteriorate. What is at the root of these debilitating mental and physical diseases? In many cases, it is a comparison that blocks our creative and joyful abilities. Life is about bliss, enjoyment, and…fun! Life is about working on your mission. By the way, you do have a mission.

Later we will talk about you and your connections with other human beings, but, for now, keep the following concept in mind,
“You accepting yourself, is the only way you will be able to accept others.”

We judge ourselves a lot based on the ideas that are common in the society. We also do not accept who we are based on the ideas of the society. The ideas that are common in the society give others a chance to teach us their way, which may not be our way.

Let’s investigate every idea we have from the standpoint of it making us powerful or powerless. And then let’s look deeper at where we got the ideas that make us powerless. Do we still need them? The thought that you need to work hard and have fun only two days per week was created by society. It is not an idea you were born with.

“Your whole identity is based on society’s expectation of you.”
– Paramahamsa Nithyananda

Short Story:
It is 2016. There are three women at the beach. One is from Europe, and she is not wearing the top part of her bathing suit, another one is from the United States, and she is wearing both the bottom and top to her swimsuit, and another one is from the Middle East, and she is covered from head to toe.
Imagine what they are each thinking about each other? Do you think that a Middle Eastern woman sees a European or American one and is jealous of their freedom? Wrong! She thinks that they are crazy. Meanwhile, the American one is probably thinking that the European one is making her uncomfortable. The European one thinks that she is the most progressive one. You get the point.

Were these women born with these ideas or were these ideas instilled in them?
Can you think of any such ideas in you?
Write them down.
Do you judge yourself based on these ideas?

We often create a game inside our mind in which we are determined to make ourselves the losers in the end. We invent rules; we become the judges of the game. Even if we achieve a goal, we find reasons not to be content with what we’ve achieved. For example, if we buy a new house, the house is never big enough. If we get a husband or wife, they are never attractive, appreciative or capable enough. If we get a job, it is not as good as some other job. We are never content. We want things faster, bigger, better, etc.

Real progress comes in the form of energy flow. With the right energy flowing through you, you’ll continue to create, and you will not be a loser in your own game. You need to change the way you look at things, the way you look at yourself, the way you perceive life. Learn to have fun with your creations. Relax from chasing after the goal that you forget about what’s important in life. Give yourself a break. All our limiting beliefs are just somebody else’s ideas anyways!

There was a study done in which a gigantic fish tank was filled with many fish. On one side of the fish tank, the researchers created a castle for the fish to play in. The fish spent 90% of their time. there
Twice per day, the researchers would feed the fish, making sure to place the food on the complete opposite end of the tank from the castle. As a group, the fish would swim to the food, eat up, and peacefully swim back to their castle. This same routine was done every day for a couple of months. Every day the fish would swim to the food and then spend the rest of their time frolicking in the castle.
After a couple of months, the researchers placed a big transparent sheet of glass in between the castle and the food. The researchers would then place the food in the same place, the fish would attempt to swim to the food, and would be blocked by the sheet of glass. This process was repeated for a couple of days, and the fish would continue to swim to the food only to be blocked by the glass and unable to retrieve the food.
After the researchers removed the glass and fed the fish in the same place, the opposite end of the castle. The fish continued to swim over to the food, and low and behold, the fish stopped exactly where the glass was placed earlier, even though the glass was no longer there!

We are not much different from the fish but self-love can heal some of the ideas we have about ourselves, so we want to start with the self-love meditation technique.

Self-Love Meditation Technique
(This meditation can be done with a partner so that you can take turns. One reads while the other closes his or her eyes and allows the spoken words to guide them through the meditation process.)
“Close your eyes.
Allow yourself to become completely relaxed.
Take a deep breath, in through your nose.
Exhale out through your nose.
Continue to breathe deeply, every inhales and exhale becoming longer, and each breath is making you more and more relaxed.
Take another inhale for the count of four… one, two three, four.
Hold your breath for the count of four… one, two, three, four.
Exhale for the count of four… one, two, three, four.
Hold for the count of four… one, two, three, four.
Now simply breathe calmly and regularly, at a steady pace.
Bring your awareness to the one part of your body that you like least. It can be your tummy, your thighs, a facial feature.
Focus on that part of your body.
Begin to send love to that body part by repeating in your head, “I love you …[insert body part here].”
Say this ten times.
Now repeat to yourself, “I accept my [insert body part here] as it is.”
Repeat this ten times.
Now repeat, “I love the parts of me that are not very lovable.”
Repeat this ten times.
Now repeat, “I am perfect just the way I am.” Go to the mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say, “I accept myself the way I am.”
Repeat ten times or as many times as you need.